My husband had Alzheimer's 12 years before he retired from his job; he was showing something was going wrong with him. He worked 34 years on his job. He was a very smart man after his retirement, and diagnosed with Alzheimer's. I could go back with things he would do and say. Many say the same thing: why did he say that or do that?!
After his demise where he was working, they told me about seeing some changes in him. He never looked at the drivers' manual for the test, and he passed every time. The last one he didn't pass. Another time I wondered what is going wrong with him.That's how Alzheimer's is from the beginning ... lost car keys or a lost wallet. He didn't seem to worry about that, but I did. I always had to do the hunting.
A person has to live with an Alzheimer's patient to understand. Doctors don't know. At first, I would go to my Doctor. I stayed depressed and told him about my husband. He thought it was just me. My husband always looked good. At first, he could sing from a song book at church. People would talk to him. The worst thing they also thought it was me. I stayed depressed all the time.
He came down with cancer; that's what he died from. He couldn't talk at that time and he had a lot pain. It caused him to jump and roll in bed.When he passed, it was a release for him and relief for me. There is a day care here. I took him every day for a few hours to get relief for me; to get some R&R for a few hours.
We were married 46 years. At last he didn't know me or talk. But he could hear me. I always told him I loved him.