My mother has been having memory lapses and false memories on and off for a while. As she has always been a bit “quirky,” no one noticed the change.
She moved in with us three years ago, and we have enjoyed having her. A few months ago, her paranoia increased. She is obsessed with the thought that the government will cut her Social Security benefits. She has invited strangers into our home because she thinks they are from the government.
She wanders outside. She has left the back door open all night on several occasions. Last month, she decided that her dentist was trying to take her money. This week, she decided that I am trying to take her money.
We had a devastating argument in which she accused me of all sorts of things. She seems to think I want her to move out of the house, although we have reassured her that this is not the case.
I spoke to several doctors this week, without mom, and they seem to feel that her symptoms point to vascular dementia. I am truly heartbroken. I love her so much and she seems to hate me. My sister is in complete denial and is helping my mom look for an apartment.
I don’t think she can look after herself. I feel like a voice in the wilderness. I don’t know what to do.